ISSP sharing way of teaching children without scolding or spanking

It is said that “spare the rod, spoil the child”. This parenting concept may have been very popular in feudal times, but it has become outdated for today’s society. Parents need to understand the correct method of parenting so as not to affect the long-term development of their children. Let’s find out the way of teaching children without scolding or spanking shared by ISSP, the high quality and prestigious international school in Saigon, through this article from TheTips.

The “discipline whip” – Children losing more than learning

After each spanking and rain of tears, children may have to obey and have to do what their parents say, but that is only a temporary solution. What children learn is “fear of father, fear of mother and fear of spanking”, not because of wanting to do the right thing.

At the same time, this way will also make the children psychologically disturbed. It will be difficult for children to express and confide in their parents later because they will think that just saying or doing something wrong will put them at risk of being whipped. A number of sociological and psychological studies have demonstrated that children living in an environment of spanking and abuse grow up at a very high risk of mental illness.

More dangerously, many parents are instilling in their children that whipping is the ultimate solution. Everything can be solved with fists and violence, not with reason and sympathy.

Parents may know that spanking doesn’t always work, but how to change, how to discipline children is still quite new in Vietnam. In fact, Vietnam still does not have many schools, classes, teaching courses and counseling specifically for parents so that parents can have a more correct and practical view of raising children.

Discipline without tears – The future of children’s education

One of the useful methods of educating and building discipline for children is “empowerment”. According to Alfie Kohn, a professor well-known for many books on education, children will learn to make better decisions when given a choice, not by being forced to do something. So that children will learn to be decisive, teachers and parents can use the form of reward and punishment according to the scoreboard. For example, going to school on time will get one point, doing homework will get one point, falling asleep in class will lose one point, etc. At the end of the week, depending on the number of points, it will correspond to a gift of grapes. This encourages students to make the right decisions for themselves, not because of the pressure of the teachers or parents. This scorecard is intended to encourage the efforts of children, not to encourage results.

Speech to students in the class also needs to be neat and fair. All words and actions of teachers and parents need to be constructive, not praise and criticize, and must be consistent from beginning to end. For example, instead of saying, “Miss A is so naughty, she spilled ink on the floor.” letting say, “Miss A needs to be more careful next time, because the nanny will have to work harder to clean the floor.” The first is that the action is not right, and the second is for students to understand how their actions will affect others.

With this educational method, a number of international schools in Saigon have been more active in applying the discipline-free method to the daily learning environment.

Going a step further is International School Saigon Pearl (ISSP), a subsidiary of Cognita Education Group. In addition to regularly holding training sessions for teachers and staff, ISSP is planning to expand the training sessions related to “discipline without tears” regularly to all parents and the community. In particular, this workshop will be chaired by the school principal, Mr. Lester Stephens. With more than 25 years of experience in the education industry, Mr. Lester wants to convey everything so that parents have a better view of discipline. The first is to let people understand how discipline affects children, the second is to speak and behave appropriately with the children in everyday situations, and finally, to foster a good relationship. between parents, teachers and children. To find out more information and upcoming events from ISSP, please visit ISSP website at issp.edu.vn

Source: thanhnien.vn